Tokyo metropolitan area has a population of 36 million people and I am regularly voted in the top ten most complicated people in Tokyo. If sulking were an Olympic sport then I would definitely be a member of Team Japan and a strong medal contender
But there is always one circumstance when I am almost normal and one person in my life who puts up with my shit unconditionally. My Best friend Yuki.
I first met Yuki when in my second year at university. I was 19 years old and still new to Tokyo, although of course I thought I knew it all by then. We met by chance through mutual friends and clicked immediately.
A lot of time has passed since that time and we have gone through many challenging times together.
She knows more about me and my emotional make up than anyone. I have shared secrets with her that I could not even share with my mum or dad.
Recently we now both have boyfriends and so we do not see each other so often as we did in the past. But when we spend time together we really connect in away that that is unique.
We are totally different but somehow the same . . . .
I come from a wealthy family and I am something of a “princess” and very spoilt. She comes from a rather working class family is totally grounded. I tend to be rather “arty” and she is totally practical, but there is a connection between us. In Japanese folk lore we call this mystical connection the “red thread of fate”
When we meet – however long the gap is from the last meeting – it seems like we met five minutes ago.
We try to make time for us and when we do we have really girly evenings ! ! !
Usually we meet at my apartment (as Yuki lives with her parents) and we cook together, eat cakes, drink wine and talk and talk and talk . . . .
Of course we talk about music and spend a lot of time listening to different tracks and discussing the meaning of lyrics and how they relate to our lives. When we are together it is like we are sixteen again ! ! !
The most important relationship fora Japanese girl is with her mother and then her best friend. I have a wonderful relationship with my sister, but in some ways I am closer to Yuki than I am with my sister (who is beautiful smart, sassy and totally adorably) but even tough I love my sister, the relationship Yuki and I have is different.
My dad says love is an unconditional positive regard – so what what ever you you do or say the other person will accept you and still think good things about you. This is exactly the relationship I have with Yuki. It does not matter how complicated I am being, or how selfish, or how big a sulk I am in – she just brings me back to earth and wraps me in her love.
In all the evenings we have spent listening to music and watching rom coms – there is one song we have never discussed. It is “Best friend” by Kiroro. But if there is a song that captures our friendship and love it is this one.
I will never be able to thank her enough for being my best friend.
At the very end of the song, Kiroro sings:
Toki ni wa isogisugite miushinau koto mo aru yo shikatanai
zutto mimamotte iru karatte egao de
itsumo no you ni dakishimeta
anata no egao ni nando tasukerareta darou
arigatou arigatou Best Friend
Zutto zutto zutto of Best Friends
In English this is:
Things that we have missed hastily at time, that’s the way it is
Faces always looking at each other
Forever hugging each other
Your smile has helped me endless time, you know
Thank you thank you Best Friend
Always Always Always Best of friends
Thank you Yuki – For Being My Best friend ! ! ! !
Best Friend – Kiroro